You can moan as much as you like icey

I've never been in a similar situation, the closest would be when I left my first wife- that was ugly, but thankfully no kids were involved.

As far as telling people goes, my thinking is the more you're into, the harder it'd be for them to understand.

Spending time with other kinky people, we can forget how bizarre this world can seem to others. Besides how can you explain how it feels to dominate or submit to someone?

We have few if any real friends for a different reason. People can't seem to see my wife as a human being- she's either a supermodel that guys drool over & act innapropriately towards, or a 'man stealing bitch' to women.

If not for my online friends, I'd probably move back to the city- it's hard enough trying to find genuine people there, let alone in a little country town.