Believe me, gem, you are not alone. I've been in this lifestyle for 9 years and the only things that Master and I have that are made from leather are a collar that I occasionally wear for scenes and some of O/our toys. Maybe if W/we were in the public scene and hung out with other kinky people and went to clubs where leather gear was manditory, W/we might have more leather.

The collar I wear is a stainless steel one that looks more like a choker (unless you see the padlock on the back of it, which is usually covered by my hair). Other than seeing Master elad me around by my hair (long hair makes a great leash, BTW), you wouldn't know that I was a sub. I am also a Pagan, but I don't go around dressed in so-called "witchy" clothes, dripping in pentagrams (I do own some, I just don't wear them often). I don't advertise myself as a Pagan or as a sub. It might be because I live in the Bible Belt and I learned a long time ago not to draw attention to myself, because I don't like confrontation and I've always prefered to blend in with the woodwork.