Nothing offends my eye more than ill fitting PVC. Just because somebody clears the dress code at a kinky party, doesn't mean they're tasteful or even remotely sexually exciting.

There's a few stores in London who specialize in classy BDSM gear. I forget their names in my flu infested brain. But there are fetish clothing for the aesthetically aware. They're just extraordinarily expensive. I spent €900 on a rubber pin stripe suit.

Wandering around Covent Garden I found a fetish store with a Victorian theme. Mostly leather and feathers... and of course lingerie. Even here extraordinarily expensive, but oh my... the stuff was simply divine.

I'm a total sucker for pretty BDSM things, which has set my bank account back many thousands of euros.

But I like chunky leather collars because they are so offensive to the eye. It's part of the allure for me. It's a part of the humiliation and submission to carry it.