The way i see vanilla, it means......**p*l*ane, mundane and ordinary. Vanilla is nothing to challenging or interesting. Vanilla is good, just not very exciting.
I like to use food terms to compare Vanillas to Kinksters. Vanilla is considered a "pure" flavor.
How would you explain wine to someone who has only ever had water. How would you explain curry to someone who only ever has boiled potatoes. How would explain the heat of chili peppers to someone who has only ever had milk.
Some people are more adventurous and want to experience all of life........all of its flavors and complexities.....Some people like what they like and never try anything beyond what they know.
So.....how would you explain chocolate to someone who has only had vanilla....