Quote Originally Posted by J-Go View Post
To me Dominance is about traditional respect, respect primarily for my chosen and respect to and for those whose respect I wish to gain, male or female. Holding a door for a lady, allowing the elderly man at the market to take a place in line before you, ensuring that a coworker gets to her car safely late at night are, in my mind very Domly traits. As a Dom I have made a pact of sorts to care for and protect those in my family, my community and my relationships.

As for my partner DTA all of the above applies. When we are out I am vigilant to ensure she is taken care of, opening doors, holding her hand, keeping her close and making her feel more than mine, but secure and safe. These things may be corny in society today but for me they define being a Dom. What happens during play is just that…play. Honor happens every day.
*Long sighs of wistful longing*

Another post notes that 'one of the girls' said that she is old-fashioned. I couldn't agree more about myself - I want the tradition and the respect and the honor in everything that I do. I've wanted to feel safe and secure for as long as I can remember, back into the trashy romance novels that I used to read. *shy giggles*

I have only begun my journey into the complicated world of this lifestyle, but I crave being able to serve a Man worthy of my respect. A Man that I can trust without fear clouding my thoughts. A Man that speaks when He needs to and listens because He knows how.

I've loved reading this thread and hope that more Doms will come forward to share whatever thoughts they have - maybe so that more subbies like me can swoon in front of our computer screens as we long for that connection in our own lives. You've started a lovely topic, mgem, thank you, and thank you to the Doms that honor us with their words.