How have my tastes changed? Thats a good question that I will reveal here, that I havent really put down for anyone until now.

When I first started with BDSM, being interested in it, It was erotica, not movies or pictures at all. Pure and simple art of words. I enjoyed the mental picture the author could paint for me. The idea of a woman being controlled, being used, being molded to my will was a turn on beyond belief. There were many different variaties that I found interesting that the author would subject the female "victim" to during the course of the story. Some I found highly erotic, others, that held no interest for me what so ever. This is relevent now cause it relates to my tastes.

When I started reading about the dynamics of BDSM, and what was involved, outside of the world of erotica. Thats when my tastes in particular activties was started. I found the idea of having a woman kneel before me, asking my permission to do said activity very appealing. However since I had not met my mate at that point, I didn't have any way to judge how to deliver what I was interested in. So my tastes for BDSM rested mostly in a Ds aspect. I hadn't yet experienced the thrill one gets when the submissive gives up the power of choice and leaves that to you the Dom.

So my interested started with the simple activity of power exchange, the ability to tell her when to kneel when to stand, when to sleep, when to cook, when to change clothes, or not wear clothes. What to wear to bed. Things have escalated from there however. My "interests" were always in the realm of asphyxia, and knife play. So as we have progressed in our relationship, and the trust between us has become unquestioning. We have been able to dwell in those activities that require a deeper trust between play partners.

I began my journey in the activites of pain/pleasure play with simple flogging, administering a rythmic impact with a soft tailed flogger was easy to learn, and when mistakes were made resulted in little or no unwanted pain by my partner. I then migrated to heavier floggers, crops and canes. All used during a rythmic beating to some sort of music such as Enigma, or Enya. I developed my use of the flogger to the point I began to become bored with the activity, it was becoming the same thing everytime. So became mundane, and mundane just wont do.

Moving along in my journey of interests I began to play with asphyxia, I read every story, every website, every book I could find on the subject. Read all the cautions, warnings and notes. I then started slow experimentation with my partner, building up duration and intesity to a point we both enjoy, and crave even now. During that same time, I started a fasination with knives, or other items of mid-evil tortue. Enjoying the history of them, and playing with my partners mind about the possiblity of using them on her. Aside from the battle axe that is. Daggers being my choice weapon. I began my journey of knife play. Also reading about all the cautions warnings and notes for that as well. I now can, as my submissive put it, make love to the submissive with just the tip of a blade. Drawing the submissive into a level of subspace that she hadn't had without impact play prior to that.

Just very recently I have started with ropes. My skill with knots being rather poor at best. So now we enjoy experimenting with that. Incorperating the other aspects of our play in it as well.

Thats the SM side of our BDSM play. The Ds, and humiliation aspect that can be done has been rather constant it seems. Employing that at irregular times to keep it from becoming mundane and routine.

What I have learned most of all is, if it's not fun. Why the fuck am I doing it.

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