I've always been somewhat fascinated by bondage, but, until recently, it'd never progressed beyond your basic fur-lined cuffs and a few strategically used scarves or neckties. That's not as satisfying to me anymore. I want more.

While I respect the D/s relationship that a lot of people around here have, it's not something I'd do on a regular basis, mostly because it just doesn't interest me. I'm an occasional BD kind of girl and I'm happy to stay that way.

To some extent, I worry about getting more involved in bondage, simply because I don't want to ever get to the point where I need it to be able to enjoy sex. We jokingly ask each other, "OK, do you want vanilla, chocolate, or reverse peanut butter cup?" For us, a balance is important. Sex is something that draws us closer as a couple, no matter if it's a quickie in the middle of the day or a weekend-long scene.

I think that we've talked about sex more since we've started doing more BD stuff than we ever did before that, and we've been together more than ten years. I think that's been a really positive aspect to this. Since I've started reading the forums here and the story library, I've started becoming more vocal about what I'd like to try, testing my soft limits a little more now and then. But it's still important to me to have the slow, romantic "love-making" and the quickie during the commercials while we're watching TV.

I'm hitting the age where my sex drive is picking up some before I hit the eventual downfall that menopause brings. My SO has been very happy lately. *nudge nudge wink wink*