lol, Qmoq...I guess that would fall into the hot activities.

Ok, an attempt to clarify: I find it hard to rate BDSM activities, because whenever I do, I seem to take into account what my Dom likes (and which in turn makes me hot just because he gets off on it). And after that happens I find it hard to say whether it was an activity that I enjoyed - just for the sake of it - or whether it didn't do anything for me apart from the pleasure I derived from pleasing my Dom.

Sounds as warped? Ok, just to let you in on something...I end up with a HUGE list of desires and likes and just a minimum of hard limits. And really - I'm a newbie, not the kinkiest of all people walking the earth and generally a shy person - THIS CAN'T BE TRUE! That's what has me thinking...

Make any more sense?