Quote Originally Posted by sisterhoney61 View Post
I definitely agree with you, fetishdj. There have been so many times when I've been in other chat rooms and a Domme would be in the room and all the male subs would immediately flock to her. No greeting anyone else in the room, no just joining in other conversations, etc. They make a beeline for the Domme. And so many of the male subs were so eager, so whiny, so desparate that the Domme spent all her time slapping the subs on ignore. This always made me glad that I was not a Domme. I've never wanted that kind of attention.
Yep. I have seen this in chatrooms too. Especially the alt.com ones where they get a lot of people coming in from their other dating sites (because they have an offer that encourages you to join more than one of them). The ones who go straight to the BDSM site are usually lifestylers looking to chat - often not even about BDSM - those who come in from the other sites are usually looking for quick sex and they think BDSM is the best place to find 'loose, dirty, kinky women'. So, those who are straight Dommes either keep a very low profile, claim to be gay even of they are not or spend a lot of time troll bashing or educating men as to how they should approach them properly. The speech above is one I used to give to a lot of people when they blasted into a chatroom and looked like they would potentially annoy a lot of Dommes (not saying the OP here was one of these, BTW, they look like the sort of person who may end up the other end of the scale and good luck to them). Some would listen and learn, others wouldn't. The room would have time for the former and none for the latter.

I think one reason why the Doms don't seem to have that kind of trouble is that female subs are trained to be more subtle around them, if they want to find a serious relationship with a Dom. Yes, there are subs who are flirts, who will play with just about any Dom who shows an interest, who will play with other subs as well as Dom/mes. But they don't seem to have that "desperate" quality that the male subs have. For these female subs, they seem to be there to have fun and not have the attitude of "if I don't get what I want right now, I'm gonna die!" (though I have seen some desperate female subs as well, but not as many as male subs).

To be honest, I think that most of the Dommes I've met online have been bisexual.
Not in my experience. I think the split has been about equal once you actually get to know them. There are many Dommes who want thier *subs* to be Bisexual but they themselves seem to be equally divided into 'straight', 'gay' and 'bi' along the same proprotions as vanilla. Though the true numbers could be something else entirely... [subliminal message]Please someone pay me to do the research. I got qualifications and everything [/subliminal message]