Advice appreciated

[deigja]

Aussiegirl: writing seems to be a really good idea, thanx,
and fetishdj: some really good ideas but i don´t think even that little bit of switch would please him or me... we already do have a safeword... still there is much for me to try, thank you both

[fetishdj]

Aussiegirl: writing seems to be a really good idea, thanx,
and fetishdj: some really good ideas but i don´t think even that little bit of switch would please him or me... we already do have a safeword... still there is much for me to try, thank you both

All good to hear.

What sort of safeword do you have? Is it a simple 'stop altogether' one or do you use a traffic light style system?

[deigja]

Thank you all for your immediate help. I´ll try some of it and talk some more with him ;-) as much communication as possible ...


I´ll also try to keep this thread up to date and to tell you what has and has not worked for us... As it seems we´re going to meet again this weekend and perhaps try some more and I really do see a chance for this beeing something more serious, so this is propably why I´m getting a little insecure and keep asking questions
So far everything is happening very very fast... After only some weeks of communication over the internet we felt a connection right after the first meeting... and as it happens met 4 times in this first week and immediately started out playing, but also cuddeling and talking. It just feels right and I still don´t know how I came to trust him so much. And this I do. I always had a lot of Doms, Wannabes etc jumping at me whenever I entered a Chat or Community. Talking to some for months, finding some that I consider friends but always keeping them as far as possible from my real life. Never getting to trust one completely as happened with him in such a short time.
We have so much in common and as far as I can tell our expectations as to how far we want to integrate D/s in our lives are exactly the same. We both do not mind that the other one is not overly experienced... actually it helps us to overcome insecurities and fears that we both have... We share a lot of vanilla interests and the funniest thing is propably that we share a birthday ;-)
So... all seems so good but it scares me to the bones to harm this relationship unintentionally... as it could just be what I always dreamt of :-)

Thanks again for all advice
Deigja