Another two cents.

As Dom who switches I encountered this attitude: “How can you expect respect as a REAL dominating DOM IF you sub to someone _ and, what’s more you are subbing to the same person you Dominate?” Respect is the key word here.

As a sub I have heard comments like this: “Subs cannot even think of dominating someone. You are not devoted sub; therefore you are not a REAL sub. Period.” Not real, meaning - fake. Fake meaning - imposter or ‘just playing’.

Well, I am not fake. And I am not “JUST’ a player. (nothing bad in just playing, it’s great.)

However, I do not see switches as a third party or ‘third word’ because: when I Dom – I DOM, when I sub – I SUB. I might switch in an eye blink or it might take weeks but I am not sitting in some kind of no mans land.

Being on the top – ‘top of the word’ – domming, drinking in all the power given to me. Savoring it, ridding that wave of life giving power is exhilarating. BUT – moving to that place from submissive position is an extra kick And moving from ‘top of the world’ into the deep submission and striving to go deeper is equally exhilarating – if not more. It is well worth the effort it might require.

Very few people can trigger both in me. I am extremely lucky to have one.