ManOfFaith - thank you so much for sharing this.

I guess it's hard for me to understand what you're going through because I have a completely different picture of spirituality and God. My take is that God would love for us to experience passion in every way possible as long as we don't hurt each other along the way...not that kind of hurt...oh well, it's late and I'm sure you get the idea anyway.

So, as long as you and your wife agree to similar standards...what's wrong with being kinky? I also wouldn't regard reading or looking at appetizers as something to be bad. If that's all you worry about...looking at pictures, reading stories, getting ideas...that doesn't go against anything within the Christian faith, does it? Or are you afraid it'd wake up more desires?

Still trying to understand where the conflict is, not trying to impose any of my views on you.

May I ask whether you're in some special, more strict religious group? See, I'm based in Germany and neither the protestant nor the catholic church here would probably raise more than an eyebrow to reading kinky stories and the like...

Ok, I better get some sleep now - sun's up already and I'm rambling. Good night,

Silke