Thanks to everyone who's responded so far...it's so interesting to hear your thoughts and ideas on this. And yes, Scorpio, I agree with you on looking beyond the facade and finding the essence of people we meet - it's a lot more fulfilling than chasing after pure looks. Hey, and (unfortunately?) the dom/sub desires aren't visible on that facade either...

There's a quote from the book "The little Prince" by one of my favourite authors Antoine de Saint-Expery that drives this message home for me every time: 'It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye. '

Looking forward to hearing more from all of you...this is soooo interesting.