Questions/Advice

[cariad]

Silke - many aspects of the BDSM community put a negative value on marriage, sexuality, purity and things of that nature. This community basically stretches every boundary possible. That is why keeping true to my faith as I practice BDSM within my own marriage is a difficult road. Biggest thing for me is trying to remain focussed and steering clear of all the sub-cultures of BDSM (i.e., pictures, stories, chat rooms, etc.)

I think you have hit the nail on the head there. Chosen elements of B and D and S and M can be taken and incorporated into a Christian marriage. There are clearly some practices within the BDSM community which are contrary to God's laws and dabbling would be unwise. But as the point has already been made - this also applies to sexual practices within the vanilla community.

-- I will definitely check out the christian BDSM groups online when I get a chance. May prove to be an effective resource.

A word of warning here - I once ventured into those online groups, thinking they would be a safe space. The title suggests that it is safe to let your guard down - this is not the case. I did not meet anyone there who was deliberately perversive, but wonderful people who had fallen for different temptations and one needs to be just as vigilant. I so admire the stance you are taking!

cariad