Quote Originally Posted by Tojo
Yes my wife & I used to do that a lot, & she's not really into D/s as such. We just saw it as 'rough sex'

Sure seems common from what I've seen.

I personally found it a bit frightening, how turned on she'd get- it's kind of weird because she's been a rape victim, & was abused as a child.

Tojo
That actually makes sense to me; as part of my journey of self-acceptance I've been doing a lot of research on the psychology of fetishes, and quite often masochism and sadism seem to result from abuse. The child learns to deal with the abuse by turning it into a turn-on. Obviously this isn't always the case, just a possible outcome.

(That didn't help me with the search for my own "root" so to speak, since there's no sign of abuse in my past.)