Go into chat. Talk to people. Show them who you are and why you are unique. Don't go in there and say 'Dominate me please!!!!!' because that will get you nowhere. Be polite, ask questions, flirt a little and basically be very patient because there is a shortage of Dommes and an excess of subs who want to play with them.

It really is no different to vanilla dating in so many ways... if you come across as needy and annoying you will get ignored, if you come across as a nice, funny guy you have a better chance.