Quote Originally Posted by TomOfSweden View Post
Isn't it just a matter of practice? The biggest step will always be to take that one first little step no matter how pathetic of insignificant. After that its mostly downhill.

And nobody every reaches the highest level. Every time we think we do, we realise again and again that there's a 100 levels above the one we just reached.
In many respects I absolutely agree...however I have a friend, he tosses around the word Dom a lot, but honestly when I hear him discuss what he believes that means and why he thinks he is, something inside me shakes my head. I think he will go at this over and over and never be a Dom, it isn't in him (or at least i don't see any of the qualities I associate with Dominance) He basically talks only in the sense of "kinky" sex, which is fine and I tell him with willing partners go for it...He has a difficult time understanding the commitment level of a D/s relationship, whether it be online or in the flesh...there are so many levels, degrees, relationships, but I don't see the idea of wanting to physically put a collar and leash on someone as a step towards being a Dom...but then again I could be completely wrong LOL

I also too often fall into the trap of comparing myself to other submissives (which drives MR insane LOL) There is one judge of how I am doing and it is Him. There is a security I feel in knowing that He is ever aware, even when I believe "something" has passed by Him... It has not. He is wonderful at tying knots, teasing, tormenting, dominating me, but He also carries the confidence and composure to grasp my submissive on the most innate levels and make it His. These gifts have grown within Him from many many years of learning and growing and practicing...and I do believe that my gifts are to continue to help Him learn more and more