A few questions concerning punishment

[SirTimothyk]

BarYen,
the three most important words in the bdsm relationship is trust, communication and consent. You negotiate what is and what is not punishable. If you agree to his definition then anything could be a violation. Being late, not obeying rules (many times rules are written down as in a contract as well as the punishment)

My own version is a hard spanking and whipping until the sub gives me her safe word. We then stop take a break, then repeat, until i am finished. The last time i punished anyone was when my sub misinterpreted something and did not ask for clarification. She had to learn to ask.

As far as arguing, that is common for any relationship, although it should be kept to a minimum.

Have you talked this over with your partner?
Tim

[Ozme52]

BarYen,
the three most important words in the bdsm relationship is trust, communication and consent. You negotiate what is and what is not punishable. If you agree to his definition then anything could be a violation. Being late, not obeying rules (many times rules are written down as in a contract as well as the punishment)

My own version is a hard spanking and whipping until the sub gives me her safe word. We then stop take a break, then repeat, until i am finished. The last time i punished anyone was when my sub misinterpreted something and did not ask for clarification. She had to learn to ask.

As far as arguing, that is common for any relationship, although it should be kept to a minimum.

Have you talked this over with your partner?
Tim

Not something I would recommend. There's a whole set of threads on safewords. Making a safeword part of a punishment is generally contra-indicated. But again, that's part of the negotiation process. Some have multiple safewords for different kinds of stoppages, and if punishment is one of those types, then perhaps that's okay. I wouldn't call that a safeword per se.