Quote Originally Posted by fyregrrrl View Post
What I see is that you are grouping 'all' subs together in one category. That would be like me saying 'all' Doms in chat rooms are trolls looking to dominate every sub they meet. Which is SO not the case. I have met a lot of wonderful people here and I can say from my experience, I am not here for a Dom. I am here to learn. If a sub advertises that they are in need of a Dom that should not mean they would take the first one that comes along. Any man can call himself a Dom, and that doesn't mean he is one. I don't know about all the other BDSM chat rooms, but I can tell you that this particular room is full of friendly and helpful people. And most of us are here to socialize. If that leads to meeting someone with whom you click, then all the better for you. But you can't expect to just hook up with the first needy sub you meet and ride off into the sunset on her ass. Best of luck to you in your search.

Most of the serious BDSM chatrooms I have been in have been full of similar people - wanting to chat, so******e, make a joke or two, have a laugh and often rarely actually speak of BDSM. The one in this site is unique, however, in that I have rarely (in fact, never so far) had to 'advise' a male chatter that it is not a good idea to barge into the place and demand that woman serves him or approach one of the Dommes and basically try to bully her into being his 'Mistress'. I suspect this is because this site has a higher percentage of lifestylers in it and few 'non lifestyle tourists' in it.