Why are Doms so cheap with insight into their psyche? Whenever there is an equivalent discussion about submission they come flying like moths to a flame. Do you ever wish that you aren't in charge? Are Doms secretly submissive? My husband isn't a chatterbox but we have an amazing communication, He will talk and discuss anything with me. And yet, when I try to pick his brain out, He goes all tight lipped and if I try to pull something out of Him...its exhausting, I tell you, lol. Not only does it feel like I'm trying to dig rocks, I sometimes get spanked for caring and taking trouble.