Body Size & Shape

[Flaming_Redhead]

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a fat person?

I'm repelled by fat people. I had some fat in-laws who would only eat at all-you-can-eat buffets, and watching them eat was positively disgusting. I've had fat friends that I've had to listen to them whine about being fat while doing absolutely nothing about it, except continue to overeat and not get up off their fat asses and take a walk. These same so-called friends would then feel the need to criticize MY weight, making all the comments listed above (i.e. you look like a heroin addict, you're too skinny, you need to eat, you make me sick, you look sick, men like a little meat on them bones) in order to make themselves feel better. I never once told them "you look like Shamu the whale, you're too fat, you shouldn't eat, watching you eat makes me sick, men like to be able to find the wet spot without having to roll you in flour first." That being said, all of my friends are overweight to some degree, and their weight didn't factor into my decision to be friends with them, which makes all those comments about "size 2s" being uppity and shallow extremely offensive to me since I am, in fact, a size 2.

While I'm on a rant, I'm sick of hearing "it's so easy for you" to lose weight, shop for clothes, etc. There's nothing easy about shopping for clothes! Since all the stores/designers have resorted to vanity sizing due to the majority of people being overweight, I now have to shop in the juniors' department because most stores don't carry many or any size 2 items. Luckily, I think the juniors' department has cute shit, and I don't like to dress like a stuffy old lady. Even then, I still have to try on 20 pairs of jeans to find 2-3 pairs that fit because the same size in the same brand doesn't necessarily mean anything.

Also, there's nothing easy about loosing weight! I have to stop overeating just like everyone else when I'm at the upper limit for my height. Just so you know, I'm 5' 2" with a small bone structure. My weight range, according to the Centers for Disease Control, is from 100 to 120. Over 120 is considered "overweight." I watch what I eat when I need to. I have walked 5 miles 3-4 days a week to burn calories because I have an extremely sedentary job. The point is I don't sit around whining about being overweight for too long before doing something about it. I'm not one of the lucky ones who can eat like a hog all day and not gain an ounce. I make an effort to stay at a healthy weight because it affects my self-esteem, and if I become obese, it will affect my health since type 2 diabetes, high cholesterol, and heart disease run in the family.

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a thin person?

I'm repelled by thin, bony, frail-appearing men. It's just not attractive when a man is as skinny as I am.

What body type attracts you most?

Muscular male bodies with broad shoulders and chest, tight abs, thick arms and thighs. *drools* That being said, I've been with slightly thin men, athletic men with a body to die for, and chubby men. In fact, both my current partner and the one just before are chubby. As soon as we started dating, they began worrying about their weight. They want(ed) to "look good" for me. I assured them that this "size 2" isn't quite the uppity, shallow person y'all have made her out to be. I value what's on the inside more than the outside because no one is perfect, least of all me. But if Daddy wants to drop 20 lb to look buff for me.....I say yay for me!

How have your own body issues affected your love/sex life?

My body issues have never affected my love/sex life. I don't have to do it with the lights off or under the covers. My partners generally don't complain about the way I look, although I had one of the hunky athletic types tell me even though he knew he wasn't supposed to say so that I actually look good with a little more weight. I'm conscious of the white stretch marks on my hips and breasts from pregnancy and the once-full C cups now flaccid As, but I don't let them stop me from having a good time.