I researched the lifestyle for a year before placing a personal ad on another site. My ad was very specific about what I was looking for. After that, I sorted through literally hundreds of emails before choosing someone who I thought fit the bill. That relationship lasted for a year, and ending it was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I learned a lot about myself, though. I updated my profile accordingly. My new Daddy and I are progressing more quickly than I could've ever imagined, but it's mainly because we both know what we want and aren't afraid to commit. There comes a point when you just have to go for what you want or risk spending your life wondering what could've been if you'd only been brave enough to try it. I don't want to live my life alone, unfulfilled, and full of regrets. I have enough of those....