I'm "new" too, and know what you mean, though my reasons for hesitation are different. I'm definitely not as heavily into this stuff as some people (does that make me a poser?) but still interested and looking for someone who shares my level and areas of interest. Having never been to a munch, as a young guy, I'm more concerned about the M:F ratio and age dispersion. But like I said, I've never been to one, so maybe my worries are unwarranted.