Thank you Claire for asking these questions.I guess I should start by saying I am BIG..*grin very BIG* and never fully felt comfortable with being big in the vanilla world. When I found BDSM I found ME. I found that most in the BDSM community care less for society imposed body norm and more for the ability and attitude of the person. One of my first ever public play sessions was at 2 of NYCs infamous BDSM clubs, and there I felt like a Goddess, I have never had so many men and women so openly desiring me it was an amazing rush. It will be so wonderful when vanilla meets BDSMsopeness and acceptance of any and all.