lol no worries babe :-) well the easiest way for something to not freak you out is to learn all you can about it. This is the best place to start, at least in my opinion. Just look through the forums, you'll see how cool everybody is and they're totally supportive. And there's nothing wrong with not knowing what you want. You can try both and decide what you want. You don't have to be labeled Dom, switch or sub cuz there's so many shades of grey.