Let's hear it for jeans and comfy shirts! Seriously... I know it's different for people doing the 24/7 lifestyle thing, but for the rest of us, we're going to wear what we like and we're going to get off the way we like. That's just reality. Gender expression/conformity (internal AND outward) and sexuality are separate. Tomboys can be just as submissive as girly girls - and let's not forget the submissive men, who have even fewer non-sexwear clothing options.