Don't worry about feeling shy - ask people an dif any are off with you thats there problem, you will find most of us are more than hppy to help a newbie along. As many people have said - find out about the life style and the people you are meeting (in the future). I know many people that are sub within the life style but in vinella they are in control they use it as a sort of release, this may be you as well. Take your time, look round and ask questions. If you wish to pm me feel free. Good luke and enjoy

Gordon