Insults and new subs

[denuseri]

So in addition to the clearly posted "rules" and other areas that are often ignored by incoming members as too tedious and or boreing to bother reading, would a pm message sent to every new member be a better step, or perhaps a visitor profile message as its more visible to new members with a link to the main pages rules or some other message?

I dont know myself, I would ask that Torq and Delia or any other staff members to wiegh in on the formation of a mentorship group that is going to affect the site in such a wide way if the idea is even feasible.

[Ragoczy]

So in addition to the clearly posted "rules" and other areas that are often ignored by incoming members as too tedious and or boreing to bother reading, would a pm message sent to every new member be a better step, or perhaps a visitor profile message as its more visible to new members with a link to the main pages rules or some other message?

I dont know myself, I would ask that Torq and Delia or any other staff members to wiegh in on the formation of a mentorship group that is going to affect the site in such a wide way if the idea is even feasible.

And there's the crux of the problem ... lol

All the information's out there, but a lot of people won't find it, or even look for it, but if you contact every new member it'll seem cloying and intrusive to some. There really is no perfect solution.

Personally, I think this site strikes a good balance. There's information available for those who do their own research, the responses to introductions include many offers to answer questions and the same offers are made when new people show up in chat. Things seem to work a lot better here than most places.

[jezabel]

i dont know if im qualified to add to this discussion but i feel i must as i have has a bad experience with a Dom who when i questioned how far he was going became very abusive and really upset me.
if it hadnt been for the fact i recognised someone id spoken to before and asked her if my actions were justified i would have left ...possibly for good...(she assured me they were)
as a newbie and not really knowing the system, he was able to manipulate my feeling and make me feel worthless...to be honest he made me cry!!!! and i didnt join for that sort of treatment.
any help to stop another person suffering that would be fantastic but as others have, more wisely, said i dont know how to achieve this xx