and be automatically submissive, the degree i was submissive with people was always individual dependant on how Dominant each individual was.
the only people i wernt submissive to were those who automatically had control over me..especially teachers lol

i always tended to automatically veer towards Dominant people from as far back as i can remember.i was never attracted to anyone who wasnt more Dominant than me in any form of r/ship right from being a young child.
in fact if they wernt more Dominant than me i didnt want to know them.
and (totally off topic lol) weirdly i always defied anyone in direct authority over me, particularly teachers...none of them didnt usually attempted to control me lol cos i made there life a living hell!!

i never had 'normal' fantasys or experimented without some form of pain and such, and although it wasnt the same i always encouraged any partners to try new things
but as for having an 'official' D/s r/ship that wasnt until a few years ago when i was able to meet people from the net.

as for how it is now, well it's changed over time, originally i started off with the typical notion of being the perfect sub, should never ever do anything wrong, should follow every rule in the book....and basically just live in a bdsm fantasy world but as with anything in real life gradually i found my own niche, and learnt quite a few things along the way like how not to be a doormat and how to become more independant although admittedly im still working a bit on that one.
same with play i had a few more limits than i do now, i never expected that i would come to enjoy or even attempt piercings,knife,fire,breath play etc