I do not mind meeting people and playing for the first time. After months of narrowing down and vetting and even more months of talking. If I feel safe to play I do. However I always even its just meeting to talk at the village inn. I ALWAYS make a schedule, arrange safe calls and stick too them.

There are people who can pull the head over your eyes while chatting, and there are people who can do it the first meeting all the way to the 3rd. And there are psychopaths that can hide there nature for 2 yrs or more. All you can do is follow your instincts.

Side note I trust my dom implicitly but after months of talking and months more meeting. I not only stick to a strict schedule. I also still do safecalls as well as sharing all logistical info with hubby and insuring that I can answer the phone at all times. Its not paranoia or worry. Its a requirement of my lifestyle like condoms!