Thank you all very much for the warm and hearty welcome!

Quote Originally Posted by leo9 View Post
You say you live vanilla because you keep your BDSM life to the bedroom - which I would guess that the vast majority of us do, in terms of actually doing stuff, for purely practical reasons. But you say that you may decide to do bad things to her elsewhere, which shows that your roles don't actually end at the bedroom door. She doesn't have to call you Master in public or wear your collar 24/7: the fact that you both accept your right to use her as you like whenever you choose means that you are living a Master/slave life as much as a couple where the slave never wears clothes around the house or is permanently on hir knees.
Well, thank you Leo. Yes, I suppose we are living quite the Master/slave life. We have not told any friends or family about this, nor have we sought out any local organizations of like-minded people. We are not lifestylers, that's for sure. But yeah, we enjoy the Master/slave relationship very much.