Sorry to hear of your experience Kadence. It's good that you posted this- people need to hear more about the dark side as well as the fun things.

Whose fault it is, & whether you should see this person again is ultimately up to you- only you know all the facts.

Remember any opinions from others, are nothing more than opinions.

My own opinion: resposibility for a sub, male or female rests with the Dom. A true Master would take the time to find out limits before starting anything, then build up gradually. I'm sure as hell no expert, I've fouled up many a time-that's where it's essential to sit down after a session & talk to the sub. Like any relationship a D/s one needs good communication.

To have the ultimate experience, a sub has to know what they want, & settle for nothing less. I mean people can do what they want, but you're risking your life or serious physical or emotional injury.

You know better than anyone what's best for you.

We all have a responsibility to play safe, not just for ourselves but for the good of our community.


Tojo