IPet,
I have to agree with you, i am a sub and sometimes use big words in the chat room and get people asking me what they mean. (including Doms) Being a Top/bottom isn't about intelligence, it's about personal need, and our bodies needs so often defy reason.
No i do not use honorifics with just anyone. I have not ever used them with anyone besides my Dom/husband. I actually lose respect for Doms that I see trying to force every sub they encounter to refer to them as Sir/Mam. I would think they would want to know they had earned the privledge. I know for a fact that many Doms on this site agree with us whole heartedly on that front.
Like you I have a strong personality, it was my personality that attracted my Dom to me to begin with. He is very overbearing at times and probably is aware that he needs someone with a strong personality because a weaker person would be completely broken by him. He is not mean, i would never say that, just....very strond willed and stubborn. What i have heard many grown men call scary. He likes that I am willing to stand up to him if neccessary and i like that he is capable of protecting me and taking charge of me all at the same time.