Sounds like a bad situation even gone more awry by
some clown playing parlor games.

If you don't look out for the interests of what you
portend to be master of and over, then how the hell can
someone claim the right of ownership in the
first place?

Most often if something within yourself questions
the safety or sanity of a task or act than more
than likely it's just that; Neither safe or sane!

Any dom worth their salt and watches over those
they have sway over will always look to protect
what belongs to them.