Transgender...what do you think...

[damyanti]

Does it scare you?

No...it has nothing to do with what kind (good or bad) people they are. I don't have an irrational "monster" reflex, but thats because there was a hermafrodite person living in our neighborhood when I was little, so as I grew older and because the issue had a human face for me, I made an effort to try to understand, to learn and make sense of things, without passing judgment.

Would you take the person seriously as another sex?

Would I have a choice? You cant dictate other people how to live their lives.

Would you still find your partner sexually attractive as another sex?

Thats the tricky one, but I think...no. I am 98% heterosexual, I like men very much...they are a necessity.


Would you still stay with them if they wanted to be another sex? What if you were with someone, a male?
Then one day they came out and told you they used to be female, would you stay with them or leave them, why or why not?(Visa versa this question if you are male with a female)

That depends...how deeply I love the person, about the quality of our spiritual connection and about how long we have been together.

I would try to get over it, I doubt I would be successful...but in any case I would stay with them as a friend.

As for something more...I think something like that changes the person profoundly, so it depends on how much they would have changed, personality wise...if we had been together for a very long time, staying together is something I would give serious thought....its easy to be liberal in principle, its easy to say, "you are free to live your life as you want", and I do believe in that...but it is a whole other ball game, when it is someone close to you.

For instance, I have gay friends, and when every single one of them came out, I didn't even blink....they were still my friends, still the same person, being homosexual was their sexual orientation, not begin and end all of who they are.....but when I learned that a close family member was gay...it took a little time for me to digest it,...to get over it. I was shocked at myself, because its not like I was discriminating them, but it still hurt...this will maybe sound silly, but I was in mourning about the person I thought I knew, about the future life they would never have (children), no wedding for me to attend (and that was really weird because I hate weddings anyway), because I knew the difficulties they were going to face, and I didn't want that for someone I cared about.


Also, how do you feel about transgender? Do you believe that this is how we were born and it should stay that way no matter what?

Operations scare me, I hate doctors...and did I mention operations scare me...so the sheer scale of how invasive the procedure is, that I find frightening.

As to how I feel about transsexuals...I judge them as all other people. If what you are really asking is, does it make me freak out? No, it doesn't.

Nature makes mistakes...its a difficult and painful choice,...but if that is what they want, what they need to be happy...then that is all that matters. Its their body, their life, their choice...and we (as a society) shouldn't be making things unnecessarily difficult for them.