Thank you bambina for starting this thread. I feel your pain on this one. It makes it difficult for me as well to even try sometimes. My past experiences have made me feel as well that if you don't have it in you to take time getting to know as much of me as is possible in that situation, then don't bother. I am not interested in fucking/playing the first time I talk to you and maybe not the second or even third time! And no Sir you aren't my new Dom just because you are talking to me now!

I kind of think of it like this... In the vanilla world, not everyone is going to be for me and neither is everyone going to be for me here. I am slowly learning to be more patient with the folks that I meet and just maintain my standards for safety.