Hi guys 'n' gals,

Sorry, I've had no internet access over the weekend and wasn't able to check this thread. I've read through all of your advice and comments and it's all been really helpful - thank you! I think we were both at fault in the situation, though. I didn't set secure enough boundaries and he didn't seem to consider the possibility of anything going so sour. I will, of course, try to be a little more sensible and a little less stupid in the future

I also think I had a bit of what Ruby called the "sub-frenzy" going on.

Oh, and in answer to some questions, yes it was an internet relationship, although I was expected to perform in reality without him being present so, no, he wasn't there at the time. His reaction when I told him was surprisingly... I dunno. Short? He said he was sorry, and that we'd obviously gone too far, and that he said if he didn't hear from me in a month he'd assume I wanted to end the relationship. And that was that.

So far, I haven't contacted him. I think I have about two weeks left to make a decision regarding that.