E is for Edge Play

[jeanne]

To me, edge play is anything that approaches those soft limits we all have. So if my soft limit is anal (which it isn't - yay!) then any play by a Dom in that area would be edge play.

In other words, if I'm genuinely going to struggle with accepting it, then it's edge play to me.

[guest010609]

To me, edge play is anything that approaches those soft limits we all have. So if my soft limit is anal (which it isn't - yay!) then any play by a Dom in that area would be edge play.

In other words, if I'm genuinely going to struggle with accepting it, then it's edge play to me.

Hmmm, to be honest I never really thought of it in those terms. I guess it's because I have a consentual non-consent agreement with my Master and have for going on 10 years. Consequently, I really don't have limits, per say. I have things that I really do not want to do, often variable day by day. I am allowed to voice an objection to anything that I don't wish to do, however if he chooses to disregard my objections, I have two choices- submit or physically fight back until I am taken down and something far worse than what was originally planned for will happen. Sometimes he accepts my suggestions to avoid a certain activity, sometimes he doesn't. I have learned though that fighting back is never rewarding and it's very rare that I do.

My thinking about edge play (no doubt because of the above) is that it is anything that stands a fair risk of damage mentally, emotionally or physically to the slave. However, I do think that your definition is a very valid one for 99% of the bdsm population. We are just a very different dynamic than what most couples have, so my view is skewed toward that dynamic.

Thank you very much for posting that, because it made me realize how different the definitions can be.