Hmm, have you noticed that the responses on this thread are all from women? I'd like to hear from some of the men what they think about this. This is also the first thread that I've had trouble posting to because it makes me feel shy. So, not to go into too much detail, I always felt that worship, for me, happens more at the beginning. As things move further along I frequently find myself less in control of my actions and my partner's experience, as it were, and it starts to feel less like worship, which is a pretty active and intentional experience, and more like - well, more like the privilege of being used.

But at first, when one is preparing for, or inviting, or perhaps pleading for that later experience, then all your feelings - the anticipation, that feeling of wonder and delight, the privilege that one is about to enjoy - can be expressed in a sort of gentle and, not tentative, but maybe a kind of measured approach. Not to blaspheme in any way, but as with other forms of worship, one is communicating, through actions, a kind of emotion, and expressing a kind of connection.

If your partner likes to hear words, it's always nice to mention how you're feeling also. I would offer examples, but find that I can't quite do it - but they needn't be long phrases. If you're not too wordy, thank you is probably always appropriate.