Protocol tips please!!

[denuseri]

I am very new to the lifestyle and my Master is very particular about my speech patterns, but I have absolutely no idea where to turn for examples of more proper and respectful ways of asking questions and using non-directive speech patterns. In particular, I recently sent my Master a web link for healing herbs in regards to a conversation that we had, and was repremanded for using a sentence that was "perilously close" to being a "passive-aggressive order." Unfortunately, I did not grow up in a "respectful" enviornment and have no idea of the types of etiquette inferred in my speech patterns. In his reply to me, he distinguished between casual, informal, and formal forms of address in addition to my Dom, other Doms, and other Subs. Does anyone have any good links for me that they could share before I get myself into further trouble? I am trying to search the forum and online, but there are too many filters that I just can't seem to get through. I would really appreciate it :-)

Dear bpqueen

I can empathise with your delima when it comes to matters of what a dominant considers to be "proper" conduct.

However .....and please dont take this the wrong way:

He sounds like he is the real one with a problem thats in need of some good common sence training in manners and respect himself.

It is my humble opinion that if he wants you to speak to him a certian way then he should take the time to teach you exactly how he wants you to speak as opposed to reprimanding you for every little detail of speach he doesnt like and making you play a guessing game.

As for tutoring you in any proper decorum on how to actually speak all I can help you with would be the forms that I was taught my Owner prefered and perhaps some of those that other dominants I have had in the past liked which would require a lot of "one on one" practice time in the chat room.

As for letter writting skills for messages and such all I can advise is getting a college english 101 textbook (often called the little brown handbook) which contains all the formal and informal types of letter and paper writting formats recognized by contemporary society.

Respectfully Yours

denuseri

[bpqueen]

Thank you all for your suggestions and support. I am trying to do some more reading to better acquaint myself with deferential speech, and I did manage the courage to bring it up in conversation with my Master today (I am horrible at communicating period). He is going to endeavor to impart his speech theory more clearly to me while I try and not make every negative comment from him into my own personal failure. He is not Gorean, wants me as a submissive rather than a slave, and told me that he did not want me to memorize a list of rules and behaviors. We will work through my speech and behavior patterning together and in group settings until I feel more comfortable. I just have never been trained (or even experienced) how to give respect and be deferential, and I was just really panicked yesterday. I am very glad that I found my voice today and was respected for it. I appreciate all of your responses so much!! Thank you