Quote Originally Posted by delia View Post
Having found your mate (or previously being in a BDSM relationship), what ideas and thoughts do you have for newbies (or even more experienced folks!) trying to do the same?

Newbies, what questions do you have?
i would like to politely offer my own experience and opinion on this question. i am a very spiritual person, and have engaged in tattooing for a number of years as a transcendent experience, the pain helping me reach a place of higher awareness. i feel that the experience of pain introduced to sex, as in BDSM play offers a similar effect. After a great deal of study while still in my vanilla life, i recognized recently that the time had come for me to ask the Universe for my soul mate, who i also knew in my heart would be my TOP, as i was indeed ready. i submitted and opened to all possibilities, letting my personal Gods know that i offered myself in gratitude and humility to them and my twin flame, completely.

The wait was a relatively short one as DaddyJim was presented to me through an online (vanilla / non-lifestyle oriented) site we both frequented. All it took was for me to view His profile one time- being attracted to His photos and what He had to say about Himself; leaving no comment of my own, only my photo and name remained as a viewer of His information. He returned the favor, leaving me an intriguing message, inviting me to contact Him again. i was being very discriminant about with whom i spoke, choosing to contact only one or two from dozens who possessed qualities i highly valued for continued communication. Neither of us knew of our shared interest in the lifestyle until we had talked at length and i made casual mention of having a collar i enjoyed wearing... He was left instantly speechless. We journeyed further into that conversation plus many others and, over time, began to see that we had found in one another what we had each sought for years... "The One".

my long-winded point is this; If you are sincere in your desires, and trust the Universe / God implicitly, ask for what you seek, remain open and ready yourself to receive your gifts. Be still, find your peace and know that what you have asked will be given as assuredly as the sun rises each morning. To go, indiscriminately, from partner to partner seeking in a frantic state, radiates neediness and insecurity- not only to your partner(s), but to your Higher Power, as well. In spiritual pursuits, just as in D/s relationships, trust in your God / DOM is essential.