You Down With OPP?

[Lisais mine]

guess i could join the rant on this issue- but i am only going to say one thing. if you feel like something is innapropriate, then it is. if you feel like you are his, then you are. no ring or collar or decalaration of love is going to make that or break that commitment. i feel like you are doing the right thing by being dedicated to this guy, if you feel so strongly (and that is said without knowing any other factors) VoodoMan sounds like a lucky man. the couple is way overstepping. get away from them.

[Flaming_Redhead]

It seems clear that you want to be his property, you are just waiting for him to take possession. So you do have a responsibility to protect the property you offer him.

Yes, I would like that very much. When we got back together, I wanted everything to go back to the way it was before, just like the breakup never happened. I wasn't naive enough to believe that it would, though, and I was right. It's been an uneasy truce with me waiting for him to give me a sign that he's ready to proceed. Since I wasn't sure where this was going, I initially felt like I should at least check in with him before I do anything, mainly to test the waters, but it was made perfectly clear that he was not ready to assume any role other than friend. After I understood this, I felt under no obligation whatsoever to do anything different than what I normally do. However, as the months have gone by, there have been signs....which is why I'm now feeling a responsibility to put a screeching halt to all this crap.

Very rarely I find people that are willing to respect you as a person. When you find those that do, hold on tight. Especially if you're not with your significant other, people rarely offer you the respect you deserve because you appear to them as single, and willing to be taken. Many are under the impression that because you're out, doing whatever it is that you're doing, you're on the market, ready for the taking. Its quite disgusting.

That is so true.

That's when I realized he wasn't a friend and I started treating him like the slut he was.

I'm seriously considering not hanging out with this couple anymore. I shouldn't have to tell them more than once to back off, and now I don't trust them. When you start having an urge to make excuses, it's not a good thing. Rather than lie, though, I'll tell them exactly what the reason is.

When do you technically become his property? When he says so? Of when you feel it to be so?

This transcends BDSM. Even in the vanilla world, a person hoping to become an item with someone else will stop playing with others until the relationship either blooms or withers.

Basically, when he says so works for me. I can't be his if he doesn't want me, right? I wasn't going to stop living my life in the hopes that it might be more when he wasn't even sure if it would be, but recent developments have led me to believe that this will not remain casual much longer. Therefore, I am now ready to make any necessary adjustments in my behavior.

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Stay away from this couple if you truly don't want the attention. You can't change human nature.
Same goes for the guys in the bar.

DIXIE

They were perfectly well behaved before. I'm not sure why their behavior has changed and become more aggressive, except that maybe they consider me "single," but if they can't behave, we just won't hang out. As for the guys in the bar, it's to be expected to an extent. Hell, I'd be kinda disappointed if I didn't get *any* attention since I'm an attention whore. *sigh* The trick is to not let it ruin an otherwise fun evening, and it usually doesn't....but enough is enough when a guy has to be taken home by his friend because he's creeped out every girl in the bar! *shudders*

I've played a lesbian to get rid of one guy who was really irritating but nice enough for me to be nice about it. And if they are too persistent, a good kick in the nuts gets the message across use only as a last resort of course : )

I've done that, too! *lol* Since I don't go out of my way to start bar fights, I try to be nice....but there was that one time I bit a guy in the crotch. *eg*

Since I've been allowed to play with others, I find it's now worse than it was before. I feel like I am not being respected in the manner I should be.

They refuse to follow rules and only want to do what they want to.
I find that to be pathetic and rude.

Yes, I know! It was so much better when I just wasn't allowed. I always felt like I was missing out on all the fun, though. Pppfffttt!

if you feel like something is innapropriate, then it is. if you feel like you are his, then you are. no ring or collar or decalaration of love is going to make that or break that commitment. i feel like you are doing the right thing by being dedicated to this guy, if you feel so strongly (and that is said without knowing any other factors) VoodoMan sounds like a lucky man. the couple is way overstepping. get away from them.

I sort of agree, but the thing is...I need that from him. Otherwise, I'm just an obsessed "fatal attraction" kinda girl. *lol* On the other hand, he may be waiting for me to make my own changes and show him I'm ready. Hmm....but it's the subtle hints from him that are making me want to be more dedicated. No matter...they are definitely out of line. I don't need "friends" causing trouble.