Quote Originally Posted by bambina View Post
...........no man has to power to send any woman into a frenzy of ecstasy the way I describe.

Oh yes they do. Just because you haven't found one doesn't mean they don't exist. And it doesn't take years and years of practice with the same woman either. But, that being said:
Quote Originally Posted by clipcrop View Post
In summary, I'd suggest that what you need to do is stop trying to find a partner who can transport you to the ultimate Nirvana from day one. Be clear (to yourself and any partner you have), about your expectations, and search for partners who have the POTENTIAL to provide what you seek. Some will fall by the wayside, and over time, your expectations may change also. Your chances of finding the perfect partner for you are no less than, and no greater than, anyone else's.
Clipcrop has given you some good advice. Maybe some of us are luckier than others about finding someone who can "transport us to Nirvana from day one". Maybe you need to lower your expectations somewhat and at least give things a little more time. I would also second his advice to seek out partners with "potential" and give them all no less than several chances each.
Maybe your sense of urgency is being transmitted to some of your partners and it's intimidating them. Perhaps they feel like they have been forced into the position of having to perform on command. (I'm extremely guilty of intimidating men I'm trying to get to know......or so I've been told....and I think it's sheer nervousness that makes me behave that way). So slow down and try to calm down. You'll find that streetcar named "Nirvana" sooner or later and it will transport you to a place where the earth moves.

DIXIE