Quote Originally Posted by SOUTHERN GENTLEMAN View Post
Bambina, guys have egos. Most want to please their mate. Most want their mate to have that mind blowing orgasm. But as for me I want to know a woman emotionally also. I want that connection that causes me to feel giddy inside from just being with her. That only comes from knowing each other and having common ground. In the old days it was called corting. Maybe you could slow down alittle, just enjoy a mans company. When your heart is feeling good about someone, even if it's only from a true friendship point, your body will follow.
I agree completely. I am a hormone driven male, like any other.. but at the same time sex is something of a secondary motivation for me. I've had my share of purely physical relationships, but they've never been as satisfying as when I've met someone, and learned that I deeply care for them. I've somewhat learned that, especially in D/s relationships, I don't find that kind of satisfaction easily when the relationship is made physical from the first day.. though it can happen. The true bliss for me, whether subbing or Domming, is knowing that we trust and care for one another deeply enough to blur the lines of a traditional relationship and relinquish our power. Once this has been established, the sex that follows is much, much more rewarding. Perhaps instead of looking for the perfect man to satisfy your physical desires, you should search for the perfect man to fulfill your emotional needs, then your sexual fulfilment may follow in suit.
-Kit'sToy