Well little lady I'm going thru a relationship break up right now. My vanilla wife of 26 years is divorcing me, and it's not what I want. I can't stop it, and it's proably for the best. Our problem has been the lack of ability to communicate for as long as I can member. It has been both our faults. I do and she dosen't. She does and I don't. You stated yall have talked about it. I hope that has been true communication, and just not one of you talking your mind while the other lets it in one ear and out the other. You stated yall have worked some things out, Thats good and is what a true relationship is about. You said you aren't ready to give up which is GREAT. You have a chance to continue growing together. This is a life long process. It never ends until one mate gives up. Don't give up. Keep communicating so you have the chance for your relationship to continue. Good luck. I wish you, your mate, and your relationship all the best. S G