Great advice already given above.

I'll add this:

You both may want to check out Mistress Akasha's web site. While there are a number of member only articles, there is a great preview of "The Good Girl’s Guide to Domination" locate here:

http://www.akashaweb.com/women/goodgirlpreview.html

Print and review it together. Is this something that you both are seeking?

To your success!

Ruby