Online Vs Real Life

[shayna{L_D}]

No need for harsh words.

This could be answered by a sub or Dom, or so i felt and BlackDom didnt seem to have a problem with me answering. So i am not in the wrong.

[Ozme52]

No need for harsh words..

Well, first of all. Show me the harsh words? Second, I winked. Not in any way an angry motie. Third, I said the information was useful and welcome.

But when a dom does speak up and asks an opinion of the dominant community... I think the fact that we get inundated with submissive commentary makes us tend to keep to ourselves.

This could be answered by a sub or Dom, or so i felt

Dealt with a lot of online subs as an online dom have you?

Just saying. We get chided a lot for not being as vocal about things as the subs are, and it's true. I wonder why. Maybe because subs take offense where none was given? So....

...well, enough of that because I didn't intend to hijack this thread.

[Dr_BuzzCzar]

Well, first of all. Show me the harsh words? Second, I winked. Not in any way an angry motie. .

I read her post and her edit to mean she removed her harsh words. Of course there's the odd chance I'm wrong. It could happen

[shayna{L_D}]

[FirstBorn]

Maybe im feeling old and tired this morning. But i really cant be bothered with a sub that dont match my likes and dislikes. Sure i can go play with a non perfect match for a night and such.

But i realised long ago that just being young pretty and sub doesnt cut it with me. Most likely same thing goes for the subs out there but some and especially the newcomers tend to have wery limited understanding of limits and actual desires other than being dominated (my personal experiences).

So where does online play come into all this? Well i can get om my keyboard most anytime and chat up a sub online. Obviusly if i wanted to meet her IRL id go to a danish or atleast scandinavian chat. But thats not really the point.

My online games are pretty much explorations of other peoples sexual deisres and the things they like in play. Sometimes that turns out not matching what i want to spend time, money and effort on trying out IRL but still a rewarding insight offering inspiration for other games.

The last couple of subs i met were from online games and should i go seeking again itd probably be online. Spending weeks exploring and discussing likes and dislikes online pretty much gets rid of discussions youd have to have IRL before getting anywhere. Obviusly youll still need to evaluate and have debriefings once leather meets flesh.

But the perfect dom that i sometimes see subs expecting is better armed for perfection with a bit of online fantasy exploration under his belt. (prolly ill screw up anyways, but hey live and learn)