He has control over anything he chooses, besides anything work related or my money , which was agreed on from the start (can you tell I made some mistakes there in the past? ) he is not into micromanagement , there is no desire for him to have passwords and such but if he wanted them he can have them.
As for save words, none for me, the only thing I do have is “stop” , that pauses whatever we are doing to address the issue. Hard Limits… he says “how do you know if it is still a hard limit if you don’t push your limits?” and I think he has a point there. I am bi and poly so I don’t have any problems with other subs coming into our life’s so again not a issue for us.
Its all about trust on both sides, if either he or i have a problem with anything we talk about it.
Any relationship changes over time, limits are stretched and hopefully more trust is gained.
that’s just the way we are working on our relationship of course, others choose to live life differently, I don’t think there is a “one fits all rule” either in a BDSM or vanilla setting, there is no wrong or right way, it all depends on the dynamics and wants and needs.
I hope I made sense
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