you know Ive never really thought about things like that, I do know he feels a little strange about actual sexual intercourse due to me being at the end of my pregnancy and he says he feels weird knowing the baby is so close down ya know, but I think maybe your right I should talk to him about us before I think about , just my kinky needs. I just got spoiled in a way being a kitten almost 24-7 and I feel like that is not what I do but who I am, so when that part of our relationship fell to a halt I felt neglected but I will do as you advised and see what happens and will post the results