Yes, agreed, everything for me is about safety at this point. It drives my entire being. I am doing my best to 'step out' again but I find that the randomness of people's reactions highly impacts on me. It throws me off so much.

I have worked for decades - a female in a highly competetive male dominated field) raised four young men, been totally involved in a testosterone based world. I was so frustrated that it always seemed to be about 'getting your way' with no awareness that all are responsible for creating mutually fulfilling relationships. And then, I was introduced to you....EUREKA! What I had been trying to articulate to others for so many years was right here all along! How did I miss this?

Having a structured relationship where there are boundaries and rules that are discussed, honoured and made to be a priority by both participants (and their peers) helps to envelope me with a secure feeling. Thank you SO much for being here. You have no idea what lifeline you have been.